Male Tantric Massage

FAQ

What can massage do for me?

Generally acknowledged benefits from Massage are: De-stressing; improving blood circulation and lymph flow ( and with this help in promoting healthy sleep, alleviating anxiety and depression); increase joint mobility; soothing muscle aches and sprains; improving skin tone and complexion. I use high quality natural oils which should smooth and nourish your skin. (I mainly use a mix of Apricot Kernel and Sesame oil. Have used Almond oil in the past, but not for 1+years)

What happens during the SENSUAL EROTIC TANTRIC MASSAGE session?

If you arrive for the first time, I will generally have a quick chat first to check for potential medical contraindications, allergies (re. the oil I use), if you are happy to have music playing/ for me to included some energy work and obviously most importantly that you are aware of what kind of massage you are entering into. I'll also check if you prefer the massage with or without the Internal Prostate Massage. Unless you have any questions or need a quick shower this is pretty much it. Now you just have to lie down and relax, I'll take over from here.

I will work through all parts of your body and from time to time go into (more) intimate regions, so you will be entering into a usually very pleasant ride of relaxation - potential arousal - relaxation - potential arousal etc. The first half of the massage works mainly on shoulders and back, so you'll have some time to really just switch off and let go, before it becomes more exciting.

I am not a sexual councilor and trust that you know why you are coming for/ fancy a Tantric Massage. My service is very confidential and unless you feel like sharing I am not going to probe whether you are married, where your sexual orientation goes etc.

Also when I say: ' to experience spiritual unity through sexual stimulation' - this means a unity with spirit/ the universe. I am part of this obviously, but not enlightened myself and only human too. Just as I am confident that you understand that being naked and touchable during the massage does not necessarily mean that I will become erect, have sex with you or will cum myself - I am sure you can see that this is my much liked profession and I am not doing this to find me a boyfriend.

I see it as a compliment if you do want to touch me - it is a 2 hours massage though, there is plenty of time and I usually am in easy reach during the 'high points'. Please if ever possible do understand, that while you relax I am working and concentrating hard - especially during the first half when doing your back and shoulders. Take the time to let go and relax while I work on your shoulders and back (visualize yourself on a beach or something if you don't relax easy) and don't keep all of your attention on trying to catch/ touch me every time I am in vicinity/ reach of your hand. This will help keep the massage flowing + I don't have to worry about running over an arm/ hand sticking out over the couch when potentially working with my eyes closed and working along the body. If an arm/ hand gets in the way I tend to simply just place it back at the clients side.

Overall it is a very good holistic massage with erotic elements and should be seen as such - not a 2hr erotic thrill seeking with a bit of massage thrown in.

What is a TANTRIC ORGASM and will I experience one?

What is a TANTRIC ORGASM - to be honest I am not all too sure and I don't want to promise you something, as so many other websites do, of which I am not all certain what it is. There is talk of dry orgasms, i.e. one does not ejaculate, but rather 'saves' the sexual energy from just 'dissipating' through ejaculation, potentially several times in a row - multiple orgasms . Supposedly the energy then wonders up the spine and unites with the divine/ cosmic above the crown chakra and one experiences utter bliss and union with creation. - I can only refer to my own experience here - I tried dry orgasms for a few months - I did manage to stifle any ejaculate and was busy channeling all the orgasmic energy up my spine, but to be honest the only thing I experienced, was something like a badly frustrated orgasm - no unity, no bliss! Worst of all I started to feel guilty for just thinking of ejaculating. I felt as if sinning, wasting energy and depleting my male energies.

Luckily (in my interpretation) I got over this and instead started to cherish my ejaculative orgasms more, started to exploring them more (- in my believes Life is about happiness and enjoying it's gifts - including the bodies we have and the pleasures they can provide). As with possibly many of you - I had my first orgasms in my childhood, clandestinely under a blanket, with siblings sleeping in the next bed. In my mind ones I had ejaculated that was it and I'd see that my physiology, e.g. breath, would go back to normal as soon as possible. I must say, admit that for quite some time I carried on like this and mostly met guys that seem to operate the same way - ones one comes, one looks for a towel and that was it.

Sensing that there was something else and bigger out there to be had from orgasms, I started to develop the confidence to just keep going a bit longer and longer. I found myself breathing deeply for longer and longer periods and now also experience more and more extensive whole body quivers, quite some time after I have ejaculated. Mind you I do still at times get some strange looks and have guys getting concerned, asking if I am alright? I just know it feels good and right (to me). If all this is a 'tantric' whole body orgasm - maybe....

As mentioned before I cannot promise that you will climax, but I can promise that during the massage(and during or after potential ejaculation) you are welcome to breath as heavy and long as you like without me thinking you mad - I'd love to allow you to become as loud as you'd like as well, but I do have neighbors and a flatmate.

Many clients who do cum, seem to experience particularly strong orgasms - if that is because of my 'Touch' and the spirit of Tantra - or simply because they will just have had up to 2 hour foreplay (at least I could never get any of my exs to give me that ) and, if included in the massage, an extra physiological stimulus through prostate massage - I don't know. I do see many very happy and relaxed faces after the massage though!

As I understand the ultimate tantric aim is to have several dry orgasms/ multiple orgasms. If you have started your own tantric journey already and have lots of experience and practice with holding and channelling your sexual energy and would like me to concentrate on helping you to achieve multiple orgasms, I'll be happy to do try my best there too. It will in certain respects be a new thing for me, but considering myself relatively sensitive and intuitive - it could work! From my feeling and study in the field, it's not really something one can easily expect to experience without any prior experience, practice and some knowledge of energy work though. Also even though generally quite generous with my timing, if we'd go beyond 2.5 hrs, we'd have to negotiate another rate ;-)

Can everybody have a SENSUAL EROTIC TANTRIC MASSAGE?

I am only trained in giving Tantric massage to men. I am happy to receive all men, be it straight, bi-sexual or gay, both 'first-timers' or experienced massagees are welcome.

You should not receive massage if any of the contra-indicating medical conditions (see list on page -tantric-massage.html ) apply.

I do not mind how old you are ( as long as older than 18 years obviously) - or which bodily shape you are (my massage table is only insured up to a body weight of 380 lbs, so this would have to be seen as the only cut off!)

What kind of clients am I looking for?

Generally if you fit all the criteria in the last question, I'll be happy to see you - only if you do not believe in personal hygiene and obviously have not showered prior but claim to have - you might find that you will at the least not be successful in re-booking (fortunately this is still only a handful of client)

Clients which are respectful and can acknowledge the boundaries quoted.

How 'safe' is SENSUAL EROTIC TANTRIC MASSAGE?

As generally no 'real' sex is involved in the massage, I usually use a medical glove for the prostate massage and the Lingam massage is purely manual - it could be seen as a pretty safe form of sexual stimulation. - I am not an expert in sexual transmitted diseases but fairly well informed and happy to discuss if you have any concerns.

I trust that as responsible adults my clients are generally pretty well informed as well - and will acknowledge that obviously I cannot give them a 100% guarantee that I am always 'all clear' - even though I do get checked regularly.

Do I have to believe in the spiritual side of Tantra?

No, whether you see yourself as a divine spiritual being or a physical being I leave to you. I believe that it is probably easier to expand your orgasmic experiences if you believe yourself the first option, but would not want to limit you by saying that your orgasms cannot be more and more mind-boggling too if you believe yourself a physical being. As mentioned before I am also happy to include full Reiki-/ Healing- work with the massage (I do believe that this,amongst other effects, makes the massage even more relaxing and the de-stressing effects more profound and longer lasting - see www.goodenergyhealing.co.uk/about-healing.htm), but won't be offended if you are not interested in this. I am here to deliver a very good massage and not to convert you to any believe systems (I am quite a free thinker myself).

If you have any spiritual believe or practice any religion yourself, I do recommend it as prudent to ask for higher protection before any kind of spiritual work performed or being performed on you yourself. I am a member of the NFSH Healing Trust and as such will always ask for spiritual protection for both of us re the energies I am channelling before each session. Since this is a promise that is hard to proof though, nearly impossible for you to monitor and I have met self-proclaimed healers who did not really have their clients best interest at heart personally, I definitely will not be offended if you do ask for protection yourself too.

Healing is generally considered very safe and side effect free. Sometimes though ( in my experience very rarely), similar to e.g. in Homeopathy, healing-crisis are reported. As an example - during the Healing (and sometimes for sometime after) an old pain or tucked away emotion could come up again and be felt as it passes through on it's way out. In a way one could see it as some energies kicking and screaming as they are being removed or from when their removal has been initialized. One might feel somewhat worse before feeling better. Again I have not seen this very often with my clients yet though!

Massage can have de-toxing effects - so I always advise to drink plenty of water or herbal tea after to help your body 'flush' out any potential toxins which might have been mobilized.

Where the gross of my clients welcomes the healing element of my service or at least does not object/ gives it a try, very occasionally some clients do not want any Energy Work performed. As stated above I do not insist and am happy to 'tone it down' . They should be aware though that with the amount of healing happening in the room, with me never shutting out/ off healing energies (just asking them to respect your wishes) and a good amount of the massage strokes being inspired by healing concepts - I cannot guarantee that there will be absolutely no Energy Work happening (beyond the physical massage manipulation).

How does the booking and cancellation process work?

If you'd like to book a session please e-mail me on: info@maletantricmassage.co.uk , call me on : 0044 (0)7939425504 (I will not go into explicit detail when questioned about the massage and you call 'Withheld') or message me at: http://www.gaydar.co.uk/.......massage.

I generally work afternoons and evenings (incldg weekends) -some weeks I can get fairly busy and booked up ahead, so if you would like to avoid disappointment please call a few days earlier to arrange.

I do try to avoid calling my clients - especially if I have not met them yet - as I do not want to jeopardize my client's privacy and call them in 'unsuitable' moments. So if you cannot keep an appointment please do let me know as soon as possible, thus I can book somebody else who might be interested. Ones you have booked, even if weeks in advance, you will be in my appointment book and there is no particular need to re-confirm. Should I fall ill I'll obviously do my best to reach you to cancel (by SMS)

If you do not cancel within 24 hours before your appointment, especially if I had other clients interested in the same timeslot - I will ask you to pay the full amount anyway. Do not expect me to arrange another session - after you might have just 'not shown' or cancelled 30 min prior - before I will have received funds for the missed session. This can be arranged via Paypal.

 

I am very grateful for having seen so many decent and respectful clients, but do take certain prudent safety measurements like keeping an electronic copy of my diary off site! And I will also insist on some kind of clear identification modus, like a mobile phone number when you are booking. Confidentiality and Data-Protection are not being jeopardized.